Thursday, April 05, 2007

Christians and porn..... porn and pancakes....Christians and gays...love and grace....etc..

well I guess that includes gay or straight guys who consider themselves a believer in the Christian faith. I think some of the fight that Christian right puts up against homosexuality isn't just based on their own personal feelings against an alternative lifestyle, or based following a bible verse they've read against homosexuality, but I think the idea of sexual freedom in general seems immoral whether heterosexual or homosexual. This must come from the general assumption that gay guys aren't looking for just one-rest-of-your-life sexual partner, or much less saving sex for just that one person they are willing to commit to ( I'm just paralleling it to how Christian families normally attempt to raise their sons and daughters, a son's double standards withholding). Anyway it seems most Christians consider a gay Christian to be "dealing" with homosexual feelings, or that they continue to have them but not acting on them. Or some mroe progressive freethinking types may believe that love is love and so you find one true partner and if it is the same sex, so be it, love is love. I've even read that whether or not a person is born gay or not doesn't matter, because we follow God's will regardless of what pleases us in life (sex,food, wealth, vanity, power, etc) so we simply do not act upon those desires and wants.
On the other hand I read in the new testament the other day for women not to wear gold or braid their hair. So why is one thing ok because it was "different times and culture" but other things like "sleeping with a man as you would a woman" not ok... well, anyhow....
It makes me consider about the society and culture of our country in general in modern times that is considered "sex obsessed" . And does that roll over into the whole gay/straight argument and whether its wrong or not. I think it might be hard for many Christians to reconcile because it's not just about having sex with a male or female, but its also about having sex at all, many times, many partners, ( of course the expectations should hold same for heterosexuals, and yet CHristians will watch and love shows like "Cheers" and "friends" but become apalled at "ellen" or "will and grace", and I'll bring that up anytime I hear someone griping about gay stuff on tv.)

Anyway, I came across this story about all about a church group helping anyone who wants it dealing with addiction to porn. I think its great that they don't just preach against the issue but they face it and provide time to deal with it together. I'm not sure if I mentioned it before, but if I ever did hvea a guy/guy relationship, I would expect porn to be out of the question for both of us. I guess I would have the same expectaions I would of any other truly committed straight couple, maybe thats unreasonable, but its still I believe a committed realtionship should be, what with my upbringing and all. I don't see why rules of commitment should be any different.
Anyway, jsut thoughts. I'm not saying I was addicted but when I first got internet at my own house about 3 years ago, I went through a stage of few months of not wanting to do anything else but just edging myself enjoying porn online. hours and hours wasted and sleep time wasted. etc..

1 comment:

Mike said...

Great post... I think you hit it with this... "sexual freedom in general seems immoral whether heterosexual or homosexual." I felt that was a big thing with me and why I haven't done much or explored in high school (other than nobody was really into sex etc.). But that was something I thought about alot after discussing it in my Bible class last year, which since the professor was gay. I found out made me question a lot of this stuff, and he kind of interjected his own views and said for him, that was something that he just decided to look over... he can believe everything in the Bible, but he said you have to make your beliefs fit for you. I don't completely agree with that, he went on to say anything can be a sin, relationships, sexual freedom could be a sin, but it's just a sin, no worse than any other, to him he will be forgiven. He said that he, being gay, dealt with all of the sexuality issues and whatnot found in the Bible and to him, he just kind of looks over them, and tailors his beliefs by looking over that.