my bud called last night, let's call him MK, MK went to the clinic and was tested, and it did not test positive for Clamid. or Ghon. but he got the shot and pills anyway. so he's taking them and waiting for next week to see if everything has disappeard. He also went to a dermotologist and had carcenoma removed from a few places on his back and arm. He went home immediately and looked up carcenoma and HIV and found a link and got all worried about having HIV. he feels he definitely didn't get anything from the hotel guy a few weeks except for his maybe current STD. But he still feels awful about the guy in CA two years ago who told him he was HIV+ after they kissed and had oral sex ( all they did). so I think he is maybe consdiering an HIV test to give him peace of mind, but he's super scared etc....
I calmed his nerves, telling him how highly unlikely it was etc etc etc, I'm not even going into again here, we talked for an hour and a half.
he feels so confused because he's a LOT like me in that he doesn't like the idea of two guys screwing at all, but only likes jerking and oral and contact and make out, etc....... and of course the whole refusal to see a life coming out EVER AT ALL.
well, he also has been reading internet sites non-stop and found all these forums where there are guys like him who have done practically nothing but feel so overwhelmed with fear and guilt, they just can't accept they didn't POSSIBLY pick up HIV. and he even found guys who said they had oral sex WITH a condom, and they are still writing into doctor forums about could the HIV - test be wrong etc.. so he can understand there are guy's just like him out there who worry WAY too much.....
he's doing a LOT better however so far, good news.
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If your friend contracted HIV two years ago, it is likely that he would have some of the classic symptoms, which I am sure he has read about by now. As far as the carcinoma, basal cell carcinoma is not life threatening, make sure his doctor looks over his entire body at least once per year, preferably twice per year. If the carcinoma was related to HIV infection, he would have other symptoms of HIV that would be unmistakable, such as low T-cell count, measurable viral load, night sweats that drench the bed, etc. I think his problem(s) source is anxiety. If a person worries excessively it can manifest in psychosomatic ways. That is where every little ache and pain becomes the sign and symptom of serious diseases. Perhaps the most common psychosomatic symptom is some sort of GI distress like nausea, vomiting, or diarrhea. Abdominal pain and headaches can also be a problem. I can’t say if your friend has an anxiety disorder, but I think a lot of his problem could be attributed to his lack of acceptance of his homosexual feelings. If he is gay, and yet living a gay lifestyle is not a viable option for him, well you can see how that can tear a person apart psychologically and eventually physically. Probably the best thing that could happen to your friend would be to move far away from OKC, get some therapy, and get a good boyfriend. In other words, he could try living a life that he cannot even image in OKC. Btw Dan, that advice may apply to you as well.
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