lately I've been considering how the single life sucks and how selfish it is to remain single. I mean the independance I guess and how the only one I answer to at home is just ME.
Of course there are probably guys chained down to a wife or boyfriend who might want just that, and the grass is always greener. But at least those guys have experienced learning how to GIVE once in a while. Isn't that what relationships all about, getting along by giving in to the other person now and then or at least meeting in the middle. Sometimes my way sometimes your way etc etc.. Is staying single selfish in that one is not willing to share stuff with another, home, finances, schedules and where-you-are-going-to-be, decisions, the remote, shopping for food, laundry, not having money for something because it went to budget for something else...etc Or is a guy more likely to hate giving up all the random sex once they get in a real relationship. ( yes, I suppose there are gay relationships that exist that are not "open" or have one secretly slutting around, I'd like to hope so anyhow )
Is it selfish to be too picky and always find some fault as to why you don't "connect" with a person. and maybe never actually looking to date longterm..
well I don't know about all that, but I think we human are a social people and work better in pairs, groups, teams, etc.. I guess that's why single guys at least need some sort of "pack" to run with or be a part of, maybe, I dunno.
(of course this is coming from someone who's out of college and been single a while and whose pack of college buddies are all no longer single...different point of view prolly for any college boys reading this post....in college i loved being single between gf's. ha)
all this to say I'm sick of being single, and I know I'd make a great other half, a great team player, I think I could give in now and then. I know it'd be really really hard to give up all the freedom I have now single, but I just know the benefits have to completely outweigh any of being single....just thoughts I had this weekend. I was installing some IKEA lights under the kitchen cabinets, ( which look awesome btw) and I was laying on my back shirtless on the counter with the screwdriver thinking, man I really wish there was someone here to be impressed by this, or at least come in and admire the new lights after installing them. maybe touch my stomach and say nice job handyman. something like that, and I think a woman would be more likely to appreciate it, maybe not but I picture another guy being too competitive to say anything nice, even if we were "boyfriends" , whatever that may be like..................hmmmmmm