I really offended my best friend in Austin Sun morning. While walking his dog to the dog park we were discussing a friend of mine, one who was just divorced with 3 kids, and had been not seriously abused, but he and his brother were sexually molested in some way or another by the father. I remarked that " is it any surprise they are both gay now". Boy he was really steamed and said that having been abused does not change a person gay. To which I responded, true, I"m sure that does not turn everyone gay, but come on, it could be reason right?. And we cannot say that sexual abuse has absolutely no effect can we? I agreed with everything he said after that, however I still believe there exists the possibility for those who are abused to be affected with confusion or change in their sexual orientation. I was NOT trying to say that homosexuality is a result of nurture and not nature. And of course who would ever begin to argue with the whole "born this way" theory among anyone gay, (indeed should I even post this). but we had a good discussion over all. He has worked for a gay lobby group for many years and has become sick of the other side always trying to blame something or another for the reason someone is gay. So he's pretty defensive about it. personally I feel scientifically there's nothing to prove why a person is gay and although some people may truly have been born completely gay from day one, I don't really agree 100% yet that the majority of gay people are born that way anymore than I believe all the other sexual turn-ons for things besides men or women are a result of someone just being born that way, perhaps a bit of both?...but anyhow......
I swam again today between jobs. this week I'm not working out at all, taking a week off so to speak then I'll kick it back in next week and set up another goal of gaining and shaping up before my trip to Phoenix during Thanksgiving weekend. something tells me I may be in the same outfit that got me some looks last weekend in Austin. yeah! second time to make eye contact with this new jock looking muscularly round blond guy at my gym today. he had flashed me in his towell last week having noticed me in the showers ,and me him.. etc. then today he sort of towelled off facing my direction and showing me his dick and big ole balls. ah man. we saw each other and while leaving I smiled and raised my eyebrows, whatever, I was on my way out getting dressed just as he was stripping down. ahh well, eventually timing will work out if he's that interested. later.
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i just wonder what it matters if it is just a turn on or biological or whatever. what i mean to say is maybe any reason is a reason but that there is really no reason at all. i'm not yelling i'm just saying. (well, wondering out loud but not realy saying....)
In my opinion people are born with their sexual identity. Societal pressure has us conform to certain standards whether we fit them or not. In some cases its like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Then again there are those that burry deep in their minds and forget about it, or until something traumatic comes along. There is still a lot of debate out there on whether one is born gay, straight, or what ever, or is made that way, etc. Traumatic situations as you have described certainly complicate matters. But personally, the sexual assault issue should be considered separately from the orientation issue. Thats my opinion anyway. Hope I'm making some sense here!
I'm not surprised your friend was offended by your comment.
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